When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Or at least that’s what they say… As upbeat as this saying may be, how much do we actually live by it? Making the best of the situation sure sounds good in theory but in real life, when should you make lemonade and when should you just go and get an orange juice?
It’s surprising how much some people will put up with while others will run at the first sign of difficulty or when things don’t go their way. I know people on both ends of the spectrum and I’m still not sure which one is happier in the long run. Perhaps those who accept their situation and get on with it, whether it is a boring job, a not so exciting relationship or a bad hair day, are better off because they are content with what they have. But maybe they are just too scared to look for something else, perhaps something better?
Older generations appear to have stuck at it and don’t run when times got tough. So does that mean they’re happier? Do they look back when they’re 75 and think how happy they were that they took their lemons and made their lemonade? Or do they wish they had been more willing or able to change their circumstances?
Then there are those people who wouldn’t put up with things not being perfect like they imagined and if they don’t like the ways things are going, they’ll change course and look for something new. Are these people brave and determined? Or are they naïve in thinking that there’s a perfect happy ending out there?
Sometimes it’s hard to know what you should put up with and when it’s time to say “enough is enough”. A boyfriend who leaves his dirty clothes on the floor is hardly a reason to look for a new model but how many times should you accept empty apologies or bad days at work. Maybe we should just be grateful because we’re better off than many others but even though we know that, it doesn’t seem to stop us wanting more.
I must have been asked about 10 times these last couple of weeks; “Any New Years Resolutions?” as if saying ” Happy New Year” to everyone 16 days into January wasn’t enough. New Years Resolutions are not something I have ever really thought about, it was always just that thing people talk about around this time of year to fill the conversation gaps. In fact, if you think about it, everyone asks the question as if it’s totally normal but really what you’re asking is quite personal. “No thanks coffee guy, I actually DON’T want to share my plans to lose weight, climb Mount Everest or adopt a child with you while I wait for my Latte.”
When you ask people about their resolutions, do you really think they are giving you their honest answer about their hopes and dreams for the next year? I know when someone asks me I just brush it off with the old faithful; healthy eating, less alcohol… At least that way if/when you fall off the wagon it’s not really of much importance. But if you really had an amazing goal that you wanted to achieve or something you wanted to change in your life, like open a successful business or swim across the Channel, would you avoid telling people just in case you couldn’t quite get there?
According to the ever reliable Wikipedia a New Years Resolution is “a commitment that an individual makes on New Year’s”. But how many of us are really committed? I don’t just mean to a resolution but I mean to things in general? Are you committed to your day-to-day goals at work or at home, are you committed to recycling or stopping global warning or is it just something you think you should be doing? If we’re not committed then we are never really going to succeed. If you think you should sign up to the gym just because you’ve seen so many adverts on tv about losing those excess kilos but you’re not really committed to having a healthier lifestyle then why bother? You really are just setting yourself up for failure.
Isn’t it about time we started to think about what it is we are really committed too and work towards those goals instead of the superficial ones we think we should be doing at this time of the year. What do you REALLY want to do this year? Where do YOU really want to be? These are the questions we should all be asking ourselves, and not just in the New Year but every day. Time flies and before you know it you’ll be in 2013 weighing the same as this year and no closer to achieving the real goals in your life…….
P.S. saying I REALLY want to marry Johnny Depp this year won’t get you anywhere, trust me!