The grass is always greener is not a new concept and it’s something which I think most of us have experienced at some point. What if I had accepted the other job? What if I’m not going to be happily ever after? What if I never see the world or get married before I’m 30? There are some questions which we might never know the answers to but there comes a time when you just have to make a decision and stick to it (sometimes for better or for worse…) or at least that’s what I thought.
According to the authors of The choice effect: Love and Commitment In An Age Of Too Many Options – a new generation of women exists – the choister. A choister is “a woman who, by happy accident of geography and timing, has more options at her fingertips than any previous generation.”
Choisters are normally, like myself, in their twenties living in a western democracy and have everything they could ever want within their reach ( perhaps not always in budget but still attainable!). Fancy a 12 month sabbatical and a trip around the world? Or perhaps a baby at 42? Maybe you want to have 25 boyfriends before you settle down? It’s all possible.
And what about your career? Job possibilities may be slimmer in the current climate but the actual options haven’t diminished. We can still choose between office worker, pilot or president if that’s what takes our fancy. Something previous generations of women didn’t have so easy.
However, all this choice makes it even harder for us to actually choose. With so many great possibilities, how are we supposed to know which is the best one to take? What if we make the wrong decision and regret it. I mean, I can’t even choose where I want to go on holiday. What if I go to the Asia but we could have had more fun in the States? What if, what if…. Life’s great mystery! Really I should be telling myself: “Oh for god’s sake… just be grateful that you can go anywhere at all outside your home town!”
We have become spoilt as a generation and unhappy because of it. With so many ‘What If’s?’ going around your head, it makes it hard to stop and appreciate what you actually have. A house, a good job, a family, a partner and most importantly health. Even if we just have a couple of these, shouldn’t it be enough to make us happy? Well, it seems not. Perhaps life was easier when it was all mapped out for us a few generations ago: marriage, babies and growing old. Doesn’t sound too exciting but at least we would have just got on with life instead of wondering about it. Hmmm.. What if I could travel back in time and give it a try? What if……Luckily that’s not a choice for me… YET!
Celebrities have become fans over the last few years of wearing a slogan on their t-shirts to show their feelings or thoughts on a particular issue. Everything from an ironic message to the public to an opinion on a celebrity break-up…. They even started commenting on their own breakup…. Take a look at Katie Price & Peter Andre from when they divorced last year.
This PR gesture actually quite surprises me. Usually all we see are celebrities complaining about how they need some space and the paparazzi won’t leave them alone. But what do they expect? If you’re going to tell the whole world what you think of your own divorce then someone is going to take a picture and make some money out of it! At the end of the day, it’s the same argument as forever; these people wouldn’t be famous without the press in the first place so why don’t they just stop complaining and enjoy their 7 houses, 9 pools, 2 Porsches and their free clothes. Life could be a lot worse you know!
Seems pretty contradictory to me anyway, a little bit like Eva Longoria’s very ‘clear message’ which she wanted the world to see…… Definitely not the best way to get that privacy she was looking for.
However, it must be very liberating to wear something like that, sometimes I wouldn’t mind wearing a t-shirt to show what I’m thinking….
“I’m ignoring you right now in case you hadn’t noticed” to your partner….
“Why are you so slow?!” to the poor guy at the checkout…
” Where’s my pay rise?” to your boss…
Unfortunately, unless I become rich and famous all of a sudden and don’t need to worry about the consequences then I doubt I’ll be sporting slogan t-shirts any time soon. What a shame, I could really use one right now for the boyfriend: “Grey’s Anatomy starts in 20 minutes, you’ve been warned ;)”
I recently read an article in Stylist offering people a chance to ‘play shop’ in a retail space in Central London for 7 days courtesy of the Hospital Club. It was aimed at entrepreneurs – people with a great business idea who hadn’t got it off the ground yet. The competition gave them the opportunity to ‘live their dream’ for one week and it could be anything from selling cookies to an exhibition of shoe designs or holding a social experiment.
At first I thought, what a great idea! How inspiring for people who haven’t had that lucky break they’re waiting for. But the more I thought about it, it actually made me a bit jealous. I kept thinking: what about the rest of us? Wouldn’t it be great if we could all have a ‘trial period’ to see if our dream job is really everything we imagined it to be? Obviously, many of us probably have a probation period with any new job, but normally that’s to see if the company are happy with us, not the other way around.
Just think about it. Wouldn’t it be great to have a few weeks working in your new possible job before you actually accept it? That way at least you could see if your new boss was actually more Miranda Priestly or David Brent!
You could get a real feel for the place and see if it was somewhere you’d like to be everyday. You could also have hands-on experience of the work, not just read what was on the job advert.
So why don’t companies do this? Perhaps they’re afraid that no one will want to come and work there after the trail. Or perhaps they just don’t want to invest the time and resources. Or maybe they just don’t want to let the possible new employee actually make a decision before they’ve arrived.
I do admit that it could be slightly chaotic but in my ideal world I would like to think that before they offer me my dream job, I would get to have a try at said ‘dream job’ first. Just to make sure it really is somewhere I could see myself working. I mean, how do you know what your favourite flavour of ice cream is without trying all the others first? Well, it should be the same with your job. You should be able to try out the possible options.
Sometimes we seem to lose sight of the fact that working isn’t just about paying the bills. Where we work is the place where we probably spend most of our time and most of our lives. So that should be a place you love, shouldn’t it?
Perhaps I’m too demanding…. Or maybe I’m just an idealist. Or maybe you could call me a recruiter of the future? (Well, not officially… give me a 2 week trial to see if I like the position first!)