When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Or at least that’s what they say… As upbeat as this saying may be, how much do we actually live by it? Making the best of the situation sure sounds good in theory but in real life, when should you make lemonade and when should you just go and get an orange juice?
It’s surprising how much some people will put up with while others will run at the first sign of difficulty or when things don’t go their way. I know people on both ends of the spectrum and I’m still not sure which one is happier in the long run. Perhaps those who accept their situation and get on with it, whether it is a boring job, a not so exciting relationship or a bad hair day, are better off because they are content with what they have. But maybe they are just too scared to look for something else, perhaps something better?
Older generations appear to have stuck at it and don’t run when times got tough. So does that mean they’re happier? Do they look back when they’re 75 and think how happy they were that they took their lemons and made their lemonade? Or do they wish they had been more willing or able to change their circumstances?
Then there are those people who wouldn’t put up with things not being perfect like they imagined and if they don’t like the ways things are going, they’ll change course and look for something new. Are these people brave and determined? Or are they naïve in thinking that there’s a perfect happy ending out there?
Sometimes it’s hard to know what you should put up with and when it’s time to say “enough is enough”. A boyfriend who leaves his dirty clothes on the floor is hardly a reason to look for a new model but how many times should you accept empty apologies or bad days at work. Maybe we should just be grateful because we’re better off than many others but even though we know that, it doesn’t seem to stop us wanting more.
I mentioned in one of my earlier posts that it seems to be getting harder and harder to keep up with ever-changing fashion trends nowadays. However, I’ve recently realised that there are some fashions which never change.
Think about a wedding or a funeral for example. It’s just expected that the bride wears white and at a funeral, everyone wears black. In fact, I remember once at a family funeral, one of my cousins wore a bright green coat and everyone acted as if there was an elephant in the room. The older generations just shook their heads while the younger family members stared in shock. Personally, I just kept thinking “good on you! everyone’s sad enough already, we don’t need all this gloomy black on top of it!” But I was still sitting there in my black dress and coat and will probably continue to do so at other funerals.
To be honest, I think I actually like it, the stability and tradition of it all, something that seems to be disappearing in so many other ways. I just find it surprising that the custom has stayed so strong. As I am writing this, I am thinking of one of my ‘readers’ who I know for a fact didn’t get married in white… dark red I think it was actually… but she’s a special case! ;)
I also know that this isn’t true for all religions or cultures so I am generalising slightly but it does seem that black funerals and white weddings are two things that have definitely stuck. When you were young and you thought about your dream wedding, I doubt that you imagined yourself in a purple or a blue dress! And if you have a funeral to go to, I bet you’re not worrying about what colour dress to buy either.
I know that there is reason behind these things; white is meant to show purity and black is worn as a sign of respect but doesn’t anyone else think it’s strange that everything else seems to be continuously changing and evolving yet this stays the same? I certainly know that people aren’t as ‘pure’ at their weddings anymore yet most dresses are still white… Maybe it’s true what they say: people just don’t like change.
Just something to think about… and in case you’re wondering, if I ever get married then you’ll definitely be seeing me in white!