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Sour Lemons

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When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Or at least that’s what they say… As upbeat as this saying may be, how much do we actually live by it? Making the best of the situation sure sounds good in theory but in real life, when should you make lemonade and when should you just go and get an orange juice?

It’s surprising how much some people will put up with while others will run at the first sign of difficulty or when things don’t go their way. I know people on both ends of the spectrum and I’m still not sure which one is happier in the long run. Perhaps those who accept their situation and get on with it, whether it is a boring job, a not so exciting relationship or a bad hair day, are better off because they are content with what they have. But maybe they are just too scared to look for something else, perhaps something better?

Older generations appear to have stuck at it and don’t run when times got tough. So does that mean they’re happier? Do they look back when they’re 75 and think how happy they were that they took their lemons and made their lemonade? Or do they wish they had been more willing or able to change their circumstances?

Then there are those people who wouldn’t put up with things not being perfect like they imagined and if they don’t like the ways things are going, they’ll change course and look for something new. Are these people brave and determined? Or are they naïve in thinking that there’s a perfect happy ending out there?

Sometimes it’s hard to know what you should put up with and when it’s time to say “enough is enough”. A boyfriend who leaves his dirty clothes on the floor is hardly a reason to look for a new model but how many times should you accept empty apologies or bad days at work. Maybe we should just be grateful because we’re better off than many others but even though we know that, it doesn’t seem to stop us wanting more.

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Dream job or just dreaming?

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I recently read an article in Stylist offering people a chance to ‘play shop’ in a retail space in Central London for 7 days courtesy of the Hospital Club. It was aimed at entrepreneurs  – people with a great business idea who hadn’t got it off the ground yet. The competition gave them the opportunity to ‘live their dream’ for one week and it could be anything from selling cookies to an exhibition of shoe designs or holding a social experiment. 

At first I thought, what a great idea! How inspiring for people who haven’t had that lucky break they’re waiting for. But the more I thought about it, it actually made me a bit jealous. I kept thinking: what about the rest of us? Wouldn’t it be great if we could all have a ‘trial period’ to see if our dream job is really everything we imagined it to be? Obviously, many of us probably have a probation period with any new job, but normally that’s to see if the company are happy with us, not the other way around.

Just think about it. Wouldn’t it be great to have a few weeks working in your new possible job before you actually accept it? That way at least you could see if your new boss was actually more Miranda Priestly or David Brent!

 You could get a real feel for the place and see if it was somewhere you’d like to be everyday.  You could also have hands-on experience of the work, not just read what was on the job advert.  

So why don’t companies do this? Perhaps they’re afraid that no one will want to come and work there after the trail. Or perhaps they just don’t want to invest the time and resources. Or maybe they just don’t want to let the possible new employee actually make a decision before they’ve arrived.

I do admit that it could be slightly chaotic but in my ideal world I would like to think that before they offer me my dream job, I would get to have a try at said ‘dream job’ first. Just to make sure it really is somewhere I could see myself working. I mean, how do you know what your favourite flavour of ice cream is without trying all the others first? Well, it should be the same with your job. You should be able to try out the possible options.

Sometimes we seem to lose sight of the fact that working isn’t just about paying the bills. Where we work is the place where we probably spend most of our time and most of our lives. So that should be a place you love, shouldn’t it?

Perhaps I’m too demanding…. Or maybe I’m just an idealist. Or maybe you could call me a recruiter of the future? (Well, not officially… give me a 2 week trial to see if I like the position first!)

Let’s take off the blindfold

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To be honest, I don’t really mind if a film has been awarded an Oscar, a Razzie or a Nobel Prize, I’ll still go and see it if it’s got a good trailer. The only thing I ask is that it makes me feel something while I’m watching it, whether this be angry, sad, happy, in love… anything!!

The Blind Side did exactly that. I had heard mixed views about the film but like I say that didn’t make a difference to me, I wanted to see it anyway and make up my own mind, and I’m glad I did.

It was one of those movies that made me leave the cinema thinking  a lot… about people, life, luck and just about how we live together in society nowadays.

The film may be a bit predictable but it’s not a storyline that’s been invented in Hollywood; it’s a true story about a real family from Mississippi who opened their home and family to someone less fortunate than themselves.

The story really touched me but at the same time it made me feel a bit guilty… how often do we really do anything for someone else anymore? When you see someone struggling on the street, asking for money or trying to talk to you on a train, do you actually take time out of your day to help them? To see what it is they are asking you? Or do you just ignore them, think “it’s not my problem” and walk on. I’m not going to exclude myself from this category because I would probably do exactly the same. I usually think that someone else will give some coins to the guy asking for money on the street or will keep the lonely guy on the train company and so I just get on with my own life.

The Blind Side made me think about if I would take someone into my home who was less fortunate than myself but to be honest I probably wouldn’t… But I would like to think that at least if I see someone today or tomorrow or the day after who needs my help then I will offer it to them and I will try to do what I can for somebody else.

So why don’t you start today too, take off the blindfold and take a look at the people around you, try and see if you can do something good for someone else without getting anything in return? You never know.. it might even catch on….

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